The definitions of hate speech and freedom of speech vary in every country.
For example, the UK is overly sensitive to hate speech. Regardless of its religiosity, one can get prison time for verbal attacks on minorities, including LGBT people in public.
In our modern society we expect individuals to be viable for themselves to survive. In other words, if an individual needs a third party to keep them alive providing help is at the pleasure of the aiding party.
One of the most consequential stories in American religion in recent years is the rapid and seemingly unceasing rise of “nones” – those who respond to questions about their religious affiliation by indicating that they are atheists, agnostics or “nothing in particular.”
People who think it is their place to tell women what to do with their bodies have personal problems that they must personally deal with, preferably quietly.
What you do and how you do It totally depends on your personality, your relationship with your grandmother, and if she expects you to do certain religious activities assuming you are a Christian.